You're NOT in High School Anymore.

NEWSFLASH PEOPLE! This might be the most obvious statement that's the LEAST comprehended EVER. People are constantly doing the same things that were okay and acceptable in high school (you know, high school is the time to learn, experiment, make mistakes and LEARN FROM THEM). But come on, alot of us are in college now. Stop it! For example:

Childish Drama

"He said, She said", fighting in the club, mean mugging that girl because she looked at you a certain type of way... yeah ok. We are too old to even get INVOLVED in this mess. This is self-explanatory. 

Talking to multiple Females/Males to look "cool".

Maybe you are not in that stage of your life to where you want to be tied down to one person, and that's okay. Explore your options. BUT if you are solely doing it to seem cool because you talk to more than one person, aka the "Player" role, and ladies, if you are doing it for the different benefits from each man, STOP! Guys, that "Player" role is PLAYED OUT. ESPECIALLY if you are trying to make it serious with one female behind the scenes. You're not that star football player anymore who supposedly pulled all the girls. Plus, since when was it cool to be talking to a whole bunch of different gullible, fast girls? The same women are easy to obtain by any guy anyway? ANY man can do that. It takes a real, mature man to fight all that off and have a stable relationship with one girl. DUH. And as for the females, stop trying to find different guys that add up to your 100% Standards of the Impossible. What he can't do for you, do for yourself!

...Which brings me to my next example...

Outrageous/Ignorant Dating Standards

Every woman/man should have standards. Like, a romantic prospect should have something going for himself, a good relationship with their mom, that type of thing. But ladies are getting ridiculous! "I only date dark skinned guys/He has to have dreads/He can't be too tall/He has to be FINE." WTF! Notice that this probably your "Type", which as you look back on your trail of failed relationships of your high school sweeties, they all were. Date outside of this, and you probably will find different results.

Dating for Labels 

Girls in high school wanted that football player, that basketball player, the finest guy at school.. you get the idea. Basically dating for labels. In college, there are SO many labels for girls stuck in this mentality to chose from: athletes, greeks, shoot even student government. STOP. If your dating for a "label" anyway chances are you are making it real obvious and they don't respect you relationship wise anyway.

You are no longer the STAR.

Remember when you were the best at whatever activity you did in high school or the most popular? Let it go. This is college now and there are a whole bunch of people that are more than likely better at the activity, more popular, and prettier. This is when you aim for your own personal goals and stop trying to be known for "The Best at Whatever" at your school. Because guess who your gonna be outside of school? Exactly.

Falling for Game.

It pisses me off that girls are still falling for this wack game dudes try to pull out of the bag these days. Like the shallow words with no real action behind them, only trying to make you feel special enough to get in your pants? Yea, the things high school guys did. You can only actually blame the guys to a certain extent because girls are out here still falling for it , so of course they will continue. Just think about were you in a situation when a dude talked those sweet nothings in your ear, and a few weeks later you find yourself PLAYED and ignored.

THE REVERSE EFFECT

No, we aren't in high school anymore, so this gives a chance to the people who were nobody's in high school, to make a comeback in college, and act like they were never shunned Grades 9-12. They usually achieve this by...

Attempting The "Player" Role

The Player role by a newbie in college is different than the one played by an expert from high school. This person probably came into their own in college, and proceeded to talk to try to talk to many girls in college at once, but it's usually done sloppily; the person does not know how to cover their tracks, and they will usually catch feelings for more than one girl. Which ends up with the person "Lovin These H*es"

Joining a popular Club/Organization/Sporting Team

And using the popularity of whatever that may be to succeed as far and dating and fame around school goes.

Getting the attention.

Maybe said person has made a debut in college by dancing randomly in clubs, being a class clown, or wearing nice clothing. They will always be seen doing that thing that gets them the attention, rain sleet or snow, so you can be sure to remember them as "oh, you talking about___ : who always dancing? Who always cracking on people? Who be dressin'?"

GROW UP! No, not in a rush, but at a steady pace. Mature, because if you don't, you will continually find yourself in childish situations. Even if it doesn't seem like that now, when everybody's 40 and your still trying to get that girl's  number from the club, dating him solely because he "looks good", calling up your homeboys because you just fought someone for stepping on your shoes, or still dancing in the middle of the party because it got you the numbers in high school? Gimme a break. Everybody's married or settled down by then. And we will want you to leave us alone. 

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