Sunday, January 8, 2012

REDD RANTS: Kobe Vs. Vanessa

--This rant is in no way, shape or form, polished.


Alright, I've had it. I've tried to keep my hostile opinion on my stance of the divorce of Kobe and Vanessa Bryant under 160 characters on Twitter, but all of the (in my opinion) ignorant comments and thought processes that I've encountered about the situation is enough to make me want to do a rant about it. I can't deal so I'm just going to say my piece about this, once and for all. 




DISCLAIMER: I know that neither Kobe or Vanessa Bryant have no idea who I am, I've never been a fly on the wall in the Bryant household so I have no idea what has been going on behind closed doors; my opinion/rant is based on these facts:
*Vanessa filed from divorce from Kobe, 10 years after the "Alleged Rape Scandal"
*Vanessa has been quoted to say that her reason for filing is because of "irreconcilable differences"
*Kobe did not make Vanessa sign a Prenuptial Agreement.
*Since Kobe is worth nearly $100 Million, & Vanessa is entitled to half of his earnings..well, you get the picture.


Here we go.


Since news of the divorce broke, so did many opinions about the situation, many of which i did NOT agree with. The majority of men that I've heard speaking on the situation have things geared toward calling Vanessa a golddigger, that she's waited to reach the 10 year mark just so she could generate more money during the divorce that's she been planing to file for since the incident, and my personal favorite, "Dang, Kobe. You don't get married without a prenup." 


And this bothers me. Not one time did I hear anything about the acts in question, because lets face it. Even though I wasn't there witnessing the acts with my own two eyes, virtually EVERYONE knows that Kobe was cheating on his wife. even the TeamKobe male population. But the only thing that they see wrong with the whole divorce is, "Why is she trying to clean that man out? She didn't earn that money."


The feminist in me wants to scream at the top of my lungs and slap a few people. The problem here isn't that Kobe didn't make her sign a Pre-Nuptial agreement. They were high school sweethearts, so I'm sure the skepticism of her being after his money wasn't present. The problem isn't that this woman will probably walk away with $100 Million dollars. The problem isn't even the suspicions that she was secretly plotting this divorce after Kobe's Scandal 10 years ago, even after he buttered her up with that $4 Million dollar, 8 Karat Diamond. The problem is simple. He cheated. And for my men out there, he cheated, WAS SLOPPY WITH IT, AND GOT CAUGHT


The Reddlipstick Blogger loves Drake, but he really made my skin boil in his new song "Stay Schemin" with his lyrics about Vanessa: “Kobe bout to lose 150 M’s. Kobe my n*gga. I hate it had to be him. B*tch, you wasn’t wit me shootin in the gym.”


Come on, Drake. 


Kobe is NOT the victim. Kobe isn't even hurting for this money he is about to lose. He committed adultery, and now he is paying the price, LITERALLY. I don't even understand what guys wanted her to do: sign a prenuptial agreement, get cheated on a couple times, and leave the marriage empty handed? OR Not sign the prenuptial agreement, stay in the marriage and be quiet about it, whether you are getting cheated on or not? This blows me. Or is it something about Vanessa that I don't know about? 


The biggest problem is that it is socially accepted for a Pro-Basketball player to openly cheat on his wife, & she is expected to sit there and take it. Cheating is not okay under any circumstance, especially martial ones. I don't care how huge of a star he is, how good of a player, how many women are throwing himself at him, nothing. In high school, Kobe may not even anticipated cheating, and maybe that's why the said-agreement wasn't an issue. (or maybe he didn't anticipate her leaving.)


In conclusion: CHEATING=BAD. & every action has a reaction, and in Kobe's case in "Fed Up Ex-Wife" form.

4 comments:

India A. Hill said...

What are your thoughts?

Anonymous said...

That's crazy. I love this. - @AmericanGiJoe on twitter.com

Brittany said...

I am with you! Why would Drake open his mouth about the situation? Mind your business dude!

shajuna said...

Well to begin it all, Vanessa is not his hs sweetheart. He was dating a black woman his first couple of years in the league. He was 24 and she was 18 when they married. I don't believe in gossip so I won't state other circumstances that were included about Vanessa. Here it goes, my opinion. I do not feel Vanessa should get half of the money that this man has worked hard for. She wouldn't have walk away with nothing because there are still 2 little girls involved, plus spousal support. But to say she DESERVES his money, negative. U have to look at it like this, this woman has never worked, besides being a VIdeo chick at 17. He has provided for her, she wasn't in the gym with him, surgeries he has sustained playing 70 plus games a year. It's not the fact he won't be hurting from the money she is gonna get, its the fact its HIS MONEY. She had a plan and I'm sure she knew the law in Cali as well, because to seal the deal she hired a private investigator to make everything stick. A woman doesn't need a investigator to find out the things she already knows.... Us women know when our men are cheating. But she not only take half, she still will get spousal and child support so why would anyone say she deserves all that money. Drake was however out of line speaking on a situation that didn't involve him but that is also a close friend of his. But to me the law makes it too easy for women when they marry players, even baby momma leech off these men getting paid 20,000 a month in child support. If you think that is not a a large amount of money to pay for a child then maybe I'm tripping. But all in all this is my opinion. She doesn't deserves half of his money