For The Adults Now- The problem has been noted that healthy marriages flourish when the economy is blooming. The economy right now is not as it's best, and with the working class working even harder, the thought of relationships are getting pushed lower and lower on the priority list.
But Is It The Media?- With Rocko's "We Ain't Goin Steady" lyrics being blasted and terms such as "No Cuffin" going around, not to mention reality shows where "baby-mamas" are glorified, and wifely duties are performed with no real comittment. I cringed on an episode of Single Ladies when April and Keisha tried to convince Val to rid herself of the her "fairy tale" dream of getting married for her love interest who opposed the idea. Granted, the matrimonial ceremony is only the beginning, but why can't she dream of growing old with her Husband, and not boyfriend, lover, baby-daddy, etc? What's the problem here?
The Cycle Continues- As stated earlier, if the actions are started in the home, it could very well become a trend in the family. If a child grows up in a household where marriage wasn't really prominent, it could either turn into a yearning that they choose to fulfill as adults, or continuous non-factor in their lives. That tells me it's time to break the cycle.
Some men do have the right idea about courting a lady, showering her with attention, gifts, trips, and that title that most women work so hard to have. There is only one component missing here, the most important: BEING FAITHFUL. Alot of men have the mentality that they can have multiple women, or sleeping around casually as long as they have the "Main" and keep her happy. The inability to let the lifestyle of "playing the field" go prolongs the next step in a relationship. Marriage.
Of course a lot of the readers of this post are younger, and marriage may or may not even be on their minds at this point, but when do you find the one that you want to settle down with, will you know how to successfully? When the time for marriage comes, will you accept the challenge or shy away from it and still keep the mentality that you may have RIGHT NOW?
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Being married is no longer a socially necessary to be prosperous or accepted in society, before if you were an unmarried woman by a certain age you were looked down upon. Before it was much more difficult to get a divorce and if you did that was looked down upon as well. Before Sex prior to marriage was not encouraged or socially acceptable. Now ALL that has changed, so the pressure to be apart of a Holy Union lasting a LIFETIME is not as appealing. Also Recent generations seems to lack the discipline to see the reward and value in marriage when there are so many professional and social opportunities available. Back in the day it use to be a goal to get married even with people that still want to do so I can bet that marriage is not at the top of there list of things to accomplish in the near future. Financial prosperity and things of a materialistic nature drive today's society so rather than focusing on Lasting love and a soul mate to grow old with the focus is getting money. Fortunately for me through watching my parents who've been married 22 years I see that you can have both,you can have it all especially if you're with the right person. You will be fulfilled in the relationship and you can still have professional success. That type of happiness and comfort-ability will completely null and void any cycle, what the media has to say,etc. People just don't have the patience to let life long blessings manifest these days because everyone is so focused on themselves we're to selfish to share our lives with someone else. It's kinda sad when you think about it. I don't even know if what I wrote made sense but yeah lol
i definitely agree! people look at the highlight of their life being the professional and financial aspect and not the marriage, as if marriage is the last thing on their list. without realizing that with the right person all of it can be accomplished simultaneously and be enjoyable! I think people are looking at marriage as a chore instead of a life lasting adventure.
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