Lessons Learned From Karrueche

"Is There Such A Thing As Loving Two People?"

Is the question that Chris Brown poses on his mini-documentary that aired a few days after him and his girlfriend Karrueche called it quits. Needless to say, the break up stirred twitter and every other social network; some people calling it sad for Karrueche, other's feeling terrible for CB, and even some hating Rihanna for playing homewrecker.

Here's my thing: obviously a break up is never fun, and while my heart goes out to Karrueche (all three of them really), can you really feel totally and completely sorry for her?

Let me explain.



Since 2009 the whole Domestic Violence incident happened with CB and Rih, we've watched their passionate teenage love affair dwindle into eventually, star-crossed lovers sneaking around.

My question to you is this: Where do you believe that Kaerruche believed she fit into all of this? Was CB's feelings for her really as real as they both wanted to believe? Was he just whispering sweet nothings into her ear this whole time, really assuring her that she was the only one? Or did she really know her role? Which in my opinion, was obviously the role of the rebound?

Ladies and Gentlemen, even though I'm sure we all have or will play victim to a situation like this before: If you see the situation for what it is before you get into it, PLEASE avoid:

DATING SOMEONE WHO IS IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE!

Because what that means is, you are the 2nd choice, the choice by default, the choice that the person had to settle for because the person that they are really in love with wasn't available. And when that person does make themselves available again.. well, you get the boot.

I mean, it wasn't the hardest thing to realize. For months it's been allegations of CB and Rih sneaking around, plenty of subtweets being thrown around, etc. Rihanna even said in her interview with Oprah that her and Chris were always going to love each other. Granted, loving someone isn't always the same as being IN LOVE with someone, but in this case..

To answer Chris Brown's question, he probably did love Kae, cared for her and her feelings. but I feel as though he never fell out of love with Rihanna first, and probably tried to force his way out of his own feelings. Which led to a lot of broken hearts.

(Mind you, I'm just a spectator.)

Karreuche seems like a sweet girl. She's pretty enough. I hope that she learns from this situation and find someone that makes her their first choice, not the second, or the rebound.

And that goes for all of you. We all deserve to be someone's first choice.

I feel the worst for Chris Brown. I don't think his intention was to be a player; he stated in the video that "his mother raised him better than that." Love can be a tricky thing sometimes. I just hope that if Rihanna and Chris pursue this relationship again that they are both mature enough now to handle it, and learned from the mistakes of last time. 

This is just me on the outside looking in. I could have the whole dynamic of this situation all wrong. But hey.

WATCH THE VIDEO BELOW:

"The Real Chris Brown" from David Alan on Vimeo.

Signing off, XOXO.