Of course, here comes the big butt. There are a lot of guys out their with great girlfriends that go out of their way to buy the mall out for their lady. And that is GREAT, FABULOUS, AMAZING. Unless... (and be careful with this one)
It could a cover up. Otherwise known as gifts for compensation. But, compensating for what? --Bitter females are going to have a field day with this post lol--
Is he a cheater?
I've encountered in my life time soo many guys who are blatantly cheating on their girlfriends, and soon after you're gossiping about the latest "I have [him] with [her] at [said location]", you see the girlfriend proudly flaunting her new expensive purse, diamond ring or what have you, and bragging about how great of a man she has. See, this is a cover up. Nine times out of 10 when a girlfriend has a cheater on her arm, she knows it. Her female intuition kicked in at some point and time, and best believe they got into some type of arguement behind closed doors. In turn, the guy also knows this, and he knows the best way to shut her up is a gift, making her feel special and loved, because no cheater would shell out his money like her guy does. This works of a while, making the girl in turn feel comfortable until the next incident comes along.
Lack of time spent
Most of the time this is for the ladies who has a "boss" (and I use this term somewhat loosely). A guy who's main goal is to make sure he is NEVER struggling in the money department. I mean, who wants that. Or it could come from a guy who's just always busy doing something else-maybe he's a full-time athlete, or that guy that spends more time with his friends than you. Maybe it's just a long-distance relationship & he just doesn't see you that often. His intentions might not be bad at all, but he wants to make sure his woman is always secure in the relationship despite the lack of time spent together. This guy will be found always shipping extravagant gifts to his girlfriend or showing up to the house with a big bag of goodies when time IS spent together. This could be kind of cute actually.
He's flashy anyway & it's for show.
I can't express enough that if the guy already has a money spending habit, or enjoys being flashy himself most of the time that the money spent on a gift isn't ALWAYS genuine. Sometimes, if the guy is flashy with his car, jewelry, shoes, clothes, etc, and your the chick on his arm, he's going to make sure that you match his fly. Shelling out for the expensive gifts isn't a thing to him, so it's not always wise to sit back and think "He bought me this, and it costs THIS amount, he loves me so much" (actually, it's never really okay to think like that, but I'll get to that in a minute.). Also, if this guy is already flashy, even though he might just have expensive tastes, he could just like the attention. So of course he's going to LOVE the attention he gets from everyone else when his girlfriend tells the world what he got her and why. It could work for his benefit more than yours.
In conclusion ladies, please don't be that girl who's always twitpicking and bragging about what your man got you. I mean it was cool for Valentine's Day & every now and then, but #1 We Don't Care Anymore #2 That's between y'all anyway and #3 It could be something else behind these gifts. Of course, like I said earlier he could just be that guy who just likes to shower his lady with gifts every so often, and that's A-OK. But remember this: more so than materialistic guestures of love, nothing beats quality time, creativity, attention, and just genuine L-O-V-E to be showered with.
XOXO
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